Monday, March 10, 2008

I'm very sorry to say

This weekend we lost the baby. We don't know why it happened; at almost fifteen weeks my water broke and there was nothing that could be done. There's a chance we'll get a reason out of all the tests, but a bigger chance we won't. We're very sad, but I'm physically well and we're hopeful for the future.

Love to you all, and blessings for health and happiness. xoxo

66 comments:

Libby said...

I am so, so sorry to hear this.

Tone said...

Oh, dear Laini, I'm so sorry. So very sorry. Everybody says nature has its reasons, but nature is also cruel sometimes and doesn't stop to consider broken hearts.

But things will be better next time. Not that it is within my power to promise you this, but I promise anyway.

Much love to you, wonderful, creative, sharing person you.

Christopher said...

Oh, I'm so sorry you two.

Candace said...

I am sorry for your loss. Your baby was blessed to have been so well-loved even before being known.

maggie said...

I'm sorry Laini and Jim. Love to you both.

Sustenance Scout said...

Hugs from Denver, sweet Laini. K.

Amber Lough said...

Oh, Laini, I'm so sorry for both of you.

Liana said...

Oh no!! Oh Laini-
So so sorry.
Hugs to you and Jim.

Danielle said...

Laini and Jim, I'm so, so sorry to hear your news. Please, please, please, take care of yourselves.

Anonymous said...

I am so sorry. I will be praying for you and your husband.

Erin said...

Sending you a big, big, big hug.

ideagirl said...

Really sorry. That sucks.

Becky Levine said...

I'm so, so sorry. Sending more love to join up with all the rest that's coming your way.

Annie said...

Not much to say except how sorry I am for you both. Sending big hugs and lots of love.

Liz B said...

words fail. I am so sorry.

Anonymous said...

Dear Laini,

I am so sorry for your loss. (Words simply cannot encompass emotions at such a time.) As a fellow artist and quirky-life-enthusiast I have so enjoyed sneaking a peek at the endeavors of someone who's artistic work and efforts I have appreciated and admired now for some time. Your joy in life and fun with friends and family has been an inspiration to me, reminding me to value each day and appreciate what I am given. I can only affirm that you continually offer others color, humor, love and spritely life through your blog and I wish all of those wonderful things to come back to you in so many ways - not the least of which is my heartfelt sympathy for you and yours at this time. There is a spirit in the shape of a tiny being meant for you and Jim, and though it seems he is being a bit delayed in his finding you, know that just as good things come to those that wait, wondrous-lively-beautiful-little-miracles come to those who have been through trials and sorrow. Waiting is hoping, hoping is believing. May your greatest wishes come true, and be all the more loved and cherish for their patience in coming.

Sincerely,
Elizabeth Nelson
Minnesota

Q said...

Oh, no. That's terrible. I'm glad you're well, though, and I hope that you'll get another chance to have children!

Sending you some virtual chocolate.

Robin Brande said...

Laini and Jim, I'm so, so sorry. I can't add anything to what everyone else--especially Elizabeth--has said. Just know that we all love you and wish you only good things.

Deirdre said...

Oh, honey, I'm so sorry. I wish I could wrap you in a warm blanket and make a pot of tea. Be well.

Laura said...

I'm so sorry. Lots of hugs. Take care of yourselves.

She sure is strange! said...

((((((Laini and Jim)))))), oh how devastating! I'm so sad for you guys. I do hope you get some answers to why this happened, it does help. Take it slow and don't worry about anything else but healing. Big hugs!

Molly

Heather said...

Sending love and hugs and special thoughts to both of you. Please know there are those of us out here that just love you so much, even though we've never even met! Take care, rest and just be with each other.

Sian said...

I am so sorry, take care of each other.

Ellen-Mary said...

Oh, Laini, I'm so sorry. That really sucks.

I lost my first baby at 16 weeks and went on to have five children. It hurts and it's unfair but sometimes these things just happen. I was surprised by how many people I knew who had gone through the same thing and I didn't know they had until it happened to me.

I'm glad you are physically okay. That's important. You and Jim just take care of each other for a while.

Kim G. said...

Laini -
So very sad to hear this. For some reason earlier today, you and Jim came to my mind and heart and I felt compelled to pray for you guys. Now I know why. I'll keep praying for comfort, peace and good health in the days ahead. Talk with you soon . . . take good care.

GreenishLady said...

Oh, Laini, I am so sorry to think of that. My heart goes out to you.

Anonymous said...

Laini, I have been reading your blog for months and never commented but so appreciated the light you radiated out of this screen...

I'm so sorry Laini and Jim and while it is hard to believe everything happens for a reason maybe there are blessings and light to come somewhere through this journey. There are no words to say or write that would help really...I know you will be great parents one day. Much love and light to you both. Take care!

Frida said...

Laini I am so sorry.

Enna Isilee said...

I know that I am just one voice among many, but I am truly, truly sorry.

Anonymous said...

I, too, am sorry.

-NC

Colorado Writer said...

I'm so sorry for you both.

belle said...

my prayers go out to you.

Carolyn said...

So sorry... Reason or no reason, it still hurts. Be kind to yourself now.

Carolyn Conahan
(fellow Portlander and author/illustrator)

Tricia said...

Oh Laini,
I'm sending lots of prayers to you and Jim. I am so sorry for your loss. I will keep you both in my thoughts.
Tricia

Geri said...

Blessings

Anne Kelly said...

Laini and Jim,

I am so sorry to hear your news. I know how you feel and I'm glad you have each other to get through this. I know how you feel, this happened to me twice. But my Beautiful Girl turns 18 next month. Gulp! Bad things happen and beautiful babies arrive anyway.

Love right back at you!

Gretchen said...

Laini, I'm terribly sorry. There aren't words, but just know I'm thinking and praying for your family.

Disco Mermaids said...

Laini and Jim,
We are so sorry and we're thinking of you both. You two are such an amazing couple...we hope the best for you. HUGE hugs from the three of us.

Love,
Robin, Jay and Eve

Sandra said...

Know that you are in my prayers!

stephanieburgis said...

I am so sorry for your loss.

Natasha said...

I'm so sorry for your loss. I had a similar loss at 19 weeks.

I'm glad you are healthy and hope you will be blessed in the future.

Rhonda the Stitchingnut said...

Oh, I am so so so sorry. Hugs to you both.

Anonymous said...

Hello Laini and Jim, I was very sad to see this today, it seems so desperately unfair.

Sending you both lots of light and love, Lurking Helen

Anonymous said...

Dear Liani,
I’m very sorry to hear that; please don’t be sad, things happen for a reason.


Well, I’ve been a lurking reader of your blog and lovely life for a while. Last summer I went to Hawaii for a holiday and got your book from there. I brought it all the way to London, UK.I was hoping to take pictures of your book in various parts of London and post them to you but got too busy :( It is a great book and cant wait for your next one. :)

A follower and admirer from North Africa, living in London :)

Camille said...

Bless your hearts. So, so sorry. Love to you and Jim.

Alicia said...

I am so sorry. I feel like crying.
Your blog has been such a wonderful light in my life, thank you.
Hang in there. Alicia

Left-handed Trees... said...

I am holding you in my thoughts, Laini...
Love to you,
D.

S R Wood said...

Laini, I'm so sorry.

I think you're amazingly brave.

Jamie said...

I'm so sorry, Laini. Sending you love, hugs and adding my hope to yours.

Katie said...

I am so sorry. You are brave to blog about it. I have lost one too and you will find that the more people you talk to, the more you will find have experienced this.

Hugs!

Celeste said...

My heart breaks for you. I also lost a baby... at 19wks and 4 days right before Christmas. I still think of my baby boy everyday. My prayers are with you. Be gentle with yourself.

Celeste

lizardek said...

Oh my god, Laini...I am so sorry to hear this. HUGE HUGS

Maribeth Kayla said...

I'm sorry. It is so sad when this happens...it happened to my mom.

Lots of love. I am glad you are well.

Amber said...

...only love.

((you both))

ox

HipWriterMama said...

Oh, Laini,
It makes me so sad to read this. I know too well the pain. I wish you and Jim comfort and love during this difficult time. Hugs.

Sarah Beth Durst said...

I'm so, so sorry. Sending you both many hugs.

Heather Mackey said...

Like everyone else, I was so saddened to read this post. Good thoughts and good wishes to you both. And hoping the love that surrounded your baby stays with you, comforts you, and opens the next pathway.

Jill Davis Doughtie said...

I'm sorry.

Jen Robinson said...

Oh, Laini, I am so, so sorry.

liz elayne said...

laini and jim,
i am so very sorry. you are both in our thoughts and hearts.

Marilyn said...

Oh, Laini, I'm so very sorry to hear this. xoxo

chest of drawers said...

I can´t believe it. Thinking of you both.

Granny Smith said...

How very sad. This is something I've only felt vicariously through a daughter's experience, but I know it is not a minor event. You put a very brave face on it.

XOXO

Anonymous said...

Laini
You don't know me but I arrived here because I love Blackbringer, and the light from you that shines through your blog is now a bright spot in many of my days.

I hesitate to comment for fear of intruding where strangers don't really belong but my heart turned over when I read this and I would like to say that I too am so sorry. So sad. xo

"e" said...

I'm so sorry Laini.
:(
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AnnieElf said...

Just dropped in Laini and found these sad, sad posts. I grieve with you and my prayers are with that tiny soul. Blessings, annie