tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post4658653563466271139..comments2024-03-27T00:19:26.388-07:00Comments on Grow Wings -- the Journal of Laini Taylor: How To Talk To a Pregnant WomanLaini Taylorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064837312936707024noreply@blogger.comBlogger64125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-56260517856576464102016-11-23T02:53:05.967-08:002016-11-23T02:53:05.967-08:00I want to say a very big thanks to Almighty God fo...I want to say a very big thanks to Almighty God for his good deed,i got my tube tied after my first issue,because of the challenges i was really confronted with,i have being desperately to conceive for five years now in which medical and all other means were to avail,till this days when God give his directives to an Africa man called Dr Ologbo an herbalist,through internet baby center. for God says i will direct your part, he had for me with two months pregnancy with myself convintion and doctor confirmation i must shout a big thanks giving shout out for God word is real and Dr Ologbo as well for fulfilling God earthly promises, he is a man to recon with a man with fear of GOD email him or call him for help for any stander out there facing such challenge his via email Ologbotemple@gmail.com OR call +23473887808Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14187975380070126771noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-27084772596072542972015-11-14T15:33:46.175-08:002015-11-14T15:33:46.175-08:00I have been looking for a much better way to show ...I have been looking for a much better way to show my appreciation to Dr.Ogudugu but i have not been able to make a perfect conclusion, But i decided to start with this procedure by sharing my great experience that i had with Dr.Ogudugu with the world so that everyone can know how powerful Dr.Ogudugu is. 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The great news about all these was just after 48 hours that i contacted Dr.Ogudugu my lover that left me came back to me...<br />Dr Ogudugu Solution Templehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13936965325660073663noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-5198926407526488272015-01-08T13:36:48.899-08:002015-01-08T13:36:48.899-08:00am from Australia with this tears joy and happines...am from Australia with this tears joy and happiness in my heart i want to say thanks to this great man DR EHIAGHE of ehiaghespellhome@gmail.com for what him has done for me , This is my story i was 24 years old when i married my husband and we were both living together happily no fighting . but i was not comfortable with this marriage because after 4 years of our married i have not be able to give my husband a child doctors reveal we are capable of bearing children but we have no child to call ourchild so i was worry thinking of what to do so i can be able to give birth. inside all my thinking for a solution for my problems my husbands families came and they accuse me for been a barring women so i have to leave their son alone so i was been push out of my husband house so i went crying looking for a solution to my problems because i love my husband very much and don’t want to loose to another woman so all my mind think is him so i cry all nite to get back with him . one Friday evening when browsing i came across a testimony shared by miss Viviana how this DR EHIAGHE helped her solved a similar problems so i decided to contact this man about my own problems and to my best surprise he also help me out and to day am happy not only because am with the man i loved but still because of i now have a child of my own .so for all this help from you DR EHIAGHE of ehiaghespellhome@gmail.com i want to say thank you once again so friends if you know you are into such or any kind of problem contact this man and i guess he will also help you out good bye.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-49215719684301177592015-01-08T13:33:46.543-08:002015-01-08T13:33:46.543-08:00am from Australia with this tears joy and happines...am from Australia with this tears joy and happiness in my heart i want to say thanks to this great man DR EHIAGHE of ehiaghespellhome@gmail.com for what him has done for me , This is my story i was 24 years old when i married my husband and we were both living together happily no fighting . but i was not comfortable with this marriage because after 4 years of our married i have not be able to give my husband a child doctors reveal we are capable of bearing children but we have no child to call ourchild so i was worry thinking of what to do so i can be able to give birth. inside all my thinking for a solution for my problems my husbands families came and they accuse me for been a barring women so i have to leave their son alone so i was been push out of my husband house so i went crying looking for a solution to my problems because i love my husband very much and don’t want to loose to another woman so all my mind think is him so i cry all nite to get back with him . one Friday evening when browsing i came across a testimony shared by miss Viviana how this DR EHIAGHE helped her solved a similar problems so i decided to contact this man about my own problems and to my best surprise he also help me out and to day am happy not only because am with the man i loved but still because of i now have a child of my own .so for all this help from you DR EHIAGHE of ehiaghespellhome@gmail.com i want to say thank you once again so friends if you know you are into such or any kind of problem contact this man and i guess he will also help you out good bye.<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-46731330565007043202010-12-23T19:59:52.347-08:002010-12-23T19:59:52.347-08:00Do you know what? I had the same thing when I was ...Do you know what? I had the same thing when I was pregnant, most often in the form of birth horror stories. I always tell people that the day my son was born was the best day of my life, and I'd do it all over again.Pregnancy Symptomshttp://areyoupregnant.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-83985203718464056202009-07-06T19:49:02.398-07:002009-07-06T19:49:02.398-07:00Oh mercy, so awesome. I love this post! I also lov...Oh mercy, so awesome. I love this post! I also love the advice near the top, for guys: do not acknowledge, do not say anything. Ha! Classic. <br /><br />There is, in my humble opinion, some honest to goodness magic that surrounds mamma bellies. It is not a defense of the belly touchers, the "huge" commenters, the (shame on them) horror story telling moms, or anyone else, but there really is an incomprehensible glory that surrounds many 'bout-to-be moms. <br /><br />It is my very favorite scene in life! And I have been guilty of praying secret blessings on both mamma and baby, though mostly I refrain from doing anything visible but smiling.jesse joshua watsonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14441261515223503565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-68415052359313481662009-06-29T05:13:54.326-07:002009-06-29T05:13:54.326-07:00I have been pregnant three times, and I have to sa...I have been pregnant three times, and I have to say, I loathe going out in public. It is like the belly takes over : strangers who would never speak to you feel moved to make personal comments, and people who do know you apparently forget that you are a person in your own right with interests beyone pregnancy. Instead of "how are you?" you get "how's the baby going?". You get talk about clothes, and nappies, and god knows what. Not, "What have you been up to lately?" Or "What do you think of the situation in Iran?" or anything to suggest I might be an intelligent person with an interest in the world. No, I am just an incubator on legs. I wish people could just ignore it all completely. And the worst? PEOPLE WHO COME AND PUT THEIR HANDS ON YOUR BELLY WITHOUT EVEN ASKING FIRST. Hello?!!godiyevanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-28614427961325553942009-06-28T09:18:07.865-07:002009-06-28T09:18:07.865-07:00Oh my goodness - I can think of only one explanati...Oh my goodness - I can think of only one explanation for all this freaky talk and questions - so you can write a book about it all! I´m sorry but I´m rolling around on the floor laughing...and that´s coming from someone who´s had 3 children. Here´s a little joke for you...a small boy was always picking his nose and his mother told him that if he continued he´d get really fat. One day, the boy saw a pregnant woman on the bus, he went over to her, pointed at her belly and said "I know what you´ve been doing!".Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13354452103151051055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-66313936638541412362009-06-27T12:04:25.947-07:002009-06-27T12:04:25.947-07:00PS Cheers Sara, thanks.PS Cheers Sara, thanks.BJWhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12947302421554392540noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-27851314128931971402009-06-26T15:47:04.844-07:002009-06-26T15:47:04.844-07:00Just a quickie on a small part of your fantastic p...Just a quickie on a small part of your fantastic post. When I was in labor with my twins I just kept thinking about what I was actually doing, bringing a new person into the world, this, for me anyway, made the pain feel less, I'm not just saying that either, I didn't use drugs during labor either! Just breathe and think about what you are doing and you will be fine!!Jennifer Darlingtonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09932700501849109285noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-73330660304370932402009-06-26T09:12:06.859-07:002009-06-26T09:12:06.859-07:00Wow, Alison, really??? Our birthing class has focu...Wow, Alison, really??? Our birthing class has focused entirely on calm, scream-free natural births! The whole premise of our class is to alleviate fear and focus on deep relaxation. I can't imagine!!! And that comment is priceless.<br /><br />Hanna, I take your point, and I hope that my relief and gratitude for my own [so far] easy pregnancy are not misconstrued as gloating. After having had a miscarriage last year during a not-trouble-free pregnancy, I know what that feels like too. I'm not sure if you're chastising me a little ... if so, I'm sorry to have offended, but I'm embracing my blessings right now, because though my pregnancy has been "easy" it has been anything but worry-free, after what I went through last year. I sincerely hope that things turned out all right for you and your baby.Laini Taylorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14064837312936707024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-59106922236559307992009-06-26T08:18:04.383-07:002009-06-26T08:18:04.383-07:00Wow, in retrospect, I found it a little painful an...Wow, in retrospect, I found it a little painful and somewhat callous when some pregnant women seemed to gloat about their easy going pregnancies while mine was riddled with unexpected complications (I truly wanted and aimed for an easy one, too... just wasn't dealt that lucky card). I think sensitivity from both sides would be a blessing. Happy for you, though, that you were one of the lucky ones.hannanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-63349084227879112932009-06-26T07:14:11.301-07:002009-06-26T07:14:11.301-07:00My favorite comment of late? "You've had ...My favorite comment of late? "You've had such an easy pregnancy that your baby is DEFINITELY going to have colic." <br />This followed by a surprise 30 minute video in our birthing class of assorted women in natural childbirth. As someone just 2 1/2 weeks from her due date, listen to me -- you DO NOT need to see other screaming and crying their way through childbirth. HOW is that supposed to help? <br />No wonder animals go off into a cave and hide when they go into labor. Sigh.<br />Good luck in the last few weeks!Alisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03401896951359785900noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-53209479296570415832009-06-26T03:21:00.792-07:002009-06-26T03:21:00.792-07:00"Miracle" is what I think of the whole p..."Miracle" is what I think of the whole process in my mind and heart. However, being a guy, the gentlemen above have stated the mistakes I have made and I wish we could post them for the WHOLE world to see, so all of us could try to avoid such mistakes. I take no pleasure in my errors.<br /><br />Let me close by noting I have seen the birth of a baby lead guys to unexpectedly become mature, responsible men. Birth has a ripple effect on all of life, some of it visible, much of it subtle.<br /><br />I enjoyed your post and all the comments. Best wishes.Wyman Stewarthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14246828004909260940noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-85508469195301994672009-06-26T02:22:29.938-07:002009-06-26T02:22:29.938-07:00Hej Laini!
As I mother of four children and a wit...Hej Laini!<br /><br />As I mother of four children and a witness of atleast 1000 births (I´ve worked at a delivery ward for more than 20 years) - I must say this: Pregnant women SHINE! They are living, magical goddesses and leave me in awe everytime I am present when a the new life goes from one dimension into another...<br /><br />You are BEAUTIFUL and the professor will love your haircolor. She will be pretty in pink too! I grew up with artist parents, and I know she picked you guys for the magic you create and share with the world. And right now - you ARE IT. Just wait until you start producing milk! It´s amazing what our bodies are programmed to accomplish. I know the ups and downs of being "new born" parents - but I tell you this - its all worth it. And things never stay the same - change is the name of the game.<br />I have survived using this phrase: It is just a phase! It will pass.<br /><br />So - keep spreading you GLOW. And it will forever stay with you.<br />/from the land of freya - swedenCharlotte netznoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-27090309293894114352009-06-25T19:46:48.896-07:002009-06-25T19:46:48.896-07:00I always love to read your blog, Laini, but it is ...I always love to read your blog, Laini, but it is a testament to the topic that I have read every word of almost 50 responses! Just fascinating. <br /><br />Reading this makes me remember my own positive experiences, and also the "worry-instigators." I was very excited about my planned home births, but other people could be very judgemental and tactless. One neighbor actually commented that she would be able to hear me screaming from her house.(!) Upon learning of my desire to have an unmedicated birth, many women would make comments to convince me otherwise or to say that I was crazy. Why did it matter to them whether or not I had an epidural? Or where I had my baby? Baffling. <br /><br />My births were beautiful, bearable and amazing. An anti-horror story for you. <br /><br />You know what scared me more than other women's stories? Those books like "What To Expect When You Are Expecting" and "What To Expect The First Year" etc. Those books just made me worry. <br /><br />Laini, I think that you are lucky to be such a gifted writer and artist because you are creating eloquent, permanent memories of your experience. I often wish that I had written more details and thoughts about the pregnancy and birth because memories, however joyous, fade. Thanks for sharing some of your details. It helps a forgetful mom like me remember again.Michelle 42https://www.blogger.com/profile/17544193738913385805noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-48052756914663189572009-06-25T17:53:48.270-07:002009-06-25T17:53:48.270-07:00Oh Laini I feel you! A friend of mine called all t...Oh Laini I feel you! A friend of mine called all the words people like to share with you when you're pregnant "Ass-vice." <br /><br />It doesn't end when the baby comes out, either. People assume you come from the stone ages when there never existed books, the Internet, and other moms, and therefore they will tell you things like: "You know, babies need to eat..." and "your life will never be the same." Things you just *couldn't possibly figure out on your own*<br /><br />It's just that once you become a parent you can't help but feel a little bit expert after you've survived the chaos of it. I have caught myself doing it too.<br /><br />You'll be a fantastic mother and I envy your daughter her parents and their magnificent imaginations.Jordan E. Rosenfeldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580511962852819683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-35705648485779045082009-06-25T14:59:49.268-07:002009-06-25T14:59:49.268-07:00Gotta chime in here:
1) My favorite bit of pregnan...Gotta chime in here:<br />1) My favorite bit of pregnancy "advice" was from that mostly-dippy 90s show "thirty-something" when one of the moms says to a preg. friend- "No one ever tells you how much you are going to love the baby."<br />SO TRUE!<br />So here it is. You are going to love that baby sooooooo much!<br /><br />2) In re. the comment that nothing is ever going to be the same- for one thing, that's such an exaggeration. Also,people say it as if it's negative. But we don't have babies because we want our lives to stay just the same, do we? We know we are welcoming a totally dependent new life into the world. That does not = life staying the same!<br />3) Something I love about this post is people admitting the tactless things they've said. Haven't we all been on both sides of that? My goal is grace, regardless of which end I'm on! Not there yet, but always trying.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18184440450713395102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-10958362541425068832009-06-25T13:45:20.272-07:002009-06-25T13:45:20.272-07:00As they say, it takes a village. I guess some peop...As they say, it takes a village. I guess some people take that more literally than others.<br /><br />I don't have any children, but when/if I do, I hope I am able to deal with all the 'helpful' tips I receive...<br /><br />Three of my friends have had babies in the past year, and the stories they tell about being 'belly-violated' in public are astounding. One of them had a complete stranger walk up to her on the street and ask, "Isn't it awful knowing that everyone knows you've had sex?" Oy.<br /><br />A different friend gained about 50 lbs. during her pregnancy, but she was radiant and completely gracious - even when a waiter asked her if she was 'having a litter.' (!)<br /><br />I always feel a little shy around pregnant women and newborns, so I've never felt the urge to touch my friends' bellies, let alone a stranger's. But I agree with everyone: pregnancy is beautiful, YOU are beautiful, and I'm sure little Professor will be beautiful, too!persnickety_jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13883152950008166713noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-33432893848341942912009-06-25T13:14:00.583-07:002009-06-25T13:14:00.583-07:00Fabulous post and thread, Laini! I've been sit...Fabulous post and thread, Laini! I've been sitting here laughing like a crazy lady while wading through all the comments, as I sooo remember being in your position last summer at almost this very same time.<br /><br />In the last two months of my pregnancy, just about everyone I encountered told me how HUGE HUGE HUGE I was, and one of my worst belly rub-downs took place at a BEA booth. It was so extensive that I wanted to go back to the hotel for a shower. A month before my due date, a Home Depot clerk guaranteed me "There's no way you're making it to your due date, hon!" (Boy, was she wrong, considering my almost 10-pounder arrived two weeks late!)<br /><br />I'm glad you're taking the comments in stride. A lot of my friends got really upset by any belly-related remarks, but like you, I wore my pregnant belly like a badge of honor. All the comments, even the ignorantly rude ones, just made me even prouder of what my body was capable of doing. Just wait until you're reveling in the amazing feeling after you've given birth to your little Professor. Words, even for us writers, cannot do it justice. But nothing compares!<br /><br />And I completely agree with what Kjersten said. Your life will most definitely not be over. You'll simply be starting an even better chapter of it. On top of all the new baby fun you're going to have, you'll still get romantic dinners, movies, and yes, sex. (With #2 already on the way, I am living proof!)<br /><br />Ben, don't feel guilty about the post-pregnancy question. I had a woman who worked at Babies R Us ask me the same thing a month after my first was born (even though the baby was right there with me in the shopping cart). You were bach-ing it and had a good excuse. But she definitely should have known better! :)<br /><br />Can't wait to see your gorgeous belly soon, Laini! You are ever so beautiful and amazing!Sara Easterlyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00273865946038067945noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-75280451505256277402009-06-25T11:52:38.355-07:002009-06-25T11:52:38.355-07:00Love this thread Laini.
Yes, I have a two-year ol...Love this thread Laini.<br /><br />Yes, I have a two-year old. He's the best thing that's ever happened to me (he was a surprise). <br /><br />Also, lest you only hear about people telling you how much you can't do when you have a kid: I have been happily surprised at how much I can do. It feels awesome and empowering to still work hard as a writer/illustrator/artist and be a mom. Attitude has been everything. <br /><br />It's your life; you get to do what you want with it. All those people that tell you how it is going to be are telling their stories. Your story will be your own, unique, special, yours.Kjerstenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07934151755377892504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-30468622659709925512009-06-25T11:28:58.937-07:002009-06-25T11:28:58.937-07:00I like to think I gained a certain belly sensitivi...I like to think I gained a certain belly sensitivity during my pregnancies. I was quite large with my singleton and was asked if I was having twins. I thought my belly was lovely and lush.<br /><br />Three days before I gave birth to my twins I was afraid my husband might slug a man that nearly fell out of his chair and gasped when I swung around in a restaurant. I was astoundingly big, but like you, on my feet, active, happy.<br /><br />I always disliked the unsolicited touching of my belly. Who would do that to an unpregnant woman without permission?<br /><br />Both pregnancies left me with a gigantic star shaped series of stretch marks that surround my belly button for miles. I love them. My very own, special, mother-nature tattoo. <br /><br />I imagine you are quite beautiful with baby!Elise Murphyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14205799699628024211noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-86290872561074187062009-06-25T11:20:30.498-07:002009-06-25T11:20:30.498-07:00I completely understand what you mean. When I was ...I completely understand what you mean. When I was pregnant, I was just shocked about how often mothers wanted to share their negative experiences! I certainly didn't want to hear it, especially because I was so looking forward to my baby's birth and the whole experience. Now, I make sure I share all the positives with my friends who are pregnant and try to soothe them instead of add worry. Maybe it's easy because my baby is only 6 months old. I don't know. So far, I'm loving my life and by the way, all that stuff about not resting, I'm not sure that's completely true. I mean, life is different, yeah, but it's amazing and surprising and wonderful with a baby growing up right there. And, I have to add that since my baby boy was born, I have been more focused and dedicated to my writing than ever. <br /><br />Oh, as far as big bellies go, I got all sorts of comments, from the regular are you carrying twins, triplets, jajaja to the fact that people started teasing me that I was carrying a baby dinosaur! <br /><br />One thing I kind of didn't appreciate though, was all those strangers coming up to offer advice. I mean, I wanted to say, "If I didn't ask you and especially since I DON'T KNOW YOU, please refrain from sharing!" I never did. I only smiled, nodded and walked away. <br /><br />Enjoy your belly! Being pregnant is beautiful!Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00543721564379354360noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-89910627342303418602009-06-25T10:57:31.190-07:002009-06-25T10:57:31.190-07:00Love this post, Laini. Your honesty is so refreshi...Love this post, Laini. Your honesty is so refreshing. :-)<br />Just so ya know...I had a big 'ol belly with my son. I thought he might come out as a teenager, it was so big. But mother nature knows exactly what it needs to make a lovely creature. <br /><br />I had natural childbirth and I promise not to go into any details (because you're sooo right about the fear thing) but we found this fabulous CD called Music To Be Born By (or something like that). It was put together by Mickey Hart, the drummer for the Grateful Dead. It created a magical feeling in the room and our nurses loved it too.<br /><br />Can't wait to hear more as you guys get closer. Hugs!!!Robin Mellomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02225861794412705136noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-84449171079130916852009-06-25T10:20:32.624-07:002009-06-25T10:20:32.624-07:00And OH! I can't believe I forgot to add this: ...And OH! I can't believe I forgot to add this: I had a coworker touch MY BOOBS when I was pregnant with Wyatt!!!! "You sure are getting big ones", she said. LMAO!! Everyone in the room just stood there with their mouths open, and she walked away like she had just told me my eyes were lovely. HAHAHA!<br /><br />(she was a sweet but very odd therapist, I worked with...you know how those therapist types can be odd. ;)lol )<br /><br />:)Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04680903854519503303noreply@blogger.com