tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post1254997910666442429..comments2024-03-17T10:09:07.770-07:00Comments on Grow Wings -- the Journal of Laini Taylor: On the bright side: sushiLaini Taylorhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/14064837312936707024noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-75638308000967529532008-05-28T22:49:00.000-07:002008-05-28T22:49:00.000-07:00I am so sorry to hear of your and Jim's loss. I, t...I am so sorry to hear of your and Jim's loss. I, too, appreciate your posting about the things people say. <BR/><BR/>A dahlia garden sounds wonderful. I have two plants that greet us every year.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-15612294394450596042008-03-26T14:56:00.000-07:002008-03-26T14:56:00.000-07:00I just wanted to thank you, like some others did, ...I just wanted to thank you, like some others did, for this post. <BR/><BR/>The worst thing someone told me was that my miscarriage happened for a reason. At 19 weeks, that is not something you want to hear! At 1 week that's not something you want to hear. And besides that...my lil guy was quite active and healthy and perfect. It was just an accident. He got tangled in the umbilical cord. There was no reason for it. It was an accident. <BR/><BR/>I think that some people don't realize that for a lot of women blame comes into play, and saying harsh things only reinforces a womans feeling of blame towards herself for what happened to her perfect little baby. It's a silent suffering, I suppose, that we must endure. <BR/><BR/>Like you I also took up gardening. My patio is a forest of green now, dedicated to my little one. It filled, but did not replace, the feeling I had to nest and grow something beautiful. <BR/><BR/>May much peace come to you. <BR/><BR/>Celeste<BR/>(P.S. I love your red walls!)Celestehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04136621488028178493noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-55518666605768957282008-03-26T08:51:00.000-07:002008-03-26T08:51:00.000-07:00I just didn't know until now...Just wanted to tell...I just didn't know until now...Just wanted to tell you that you are very courageous and wonderful!<BR/><BR/>Good things will happen to you :)Catalinahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00477230079178796682noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-78233503095217679002008-03-23T19:59:00.000-07:002008-03-23T19:59:00.000-07:00Very good, what you say here. One of the things th...Very good, what you say here. One of the things that has bugged me about the whole "Power of Attraction" craze this last year or so, is how I have heard and read people beating up on themselves when something bad happens. Trying to figure out what they are doing or thinking that attracted this bad thing...It's crap. Bad things-- sometimes very bad things-- just happen because this is the human journey. The lesson, if there ever is any, should always come in how we deal with it after the fact. Not in looking for the reason it happened. <BR/>We can all only work with what we are left with...In this case, people can send you love and care. And you can-- as you have here-- in your gifted way, express things other people have felt and can't say so well. <BR/><BR/>:)Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04680903854519503303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-67153131470187721532008-03-23T03:11:00.000-07:002008-03-23T03:11:00.000-07:00great post, Laini.great post, Laini.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-5085228061960915502008-03-22T19:51:00.000-07:002008-03-22T19:51:00.000-07:00Beautiful Laini!Stop!Just breathe.Stand outside, c...Beautiful Laini!<BR/>Stop!<BR/>Just breathe.<BR/>Stand outside, close your eyes, and breathe.<BR/><BR/>You have so many people who love you, and there's only one way through this... and that's 'through'. Many, many hugs to you and Jim.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-4735560151571076462008-03-22T10:15:00.000-07:002008-03-22T10:15:00.000-07:00Right on sister--it's so human of us to want reaso...Right on sister--it's so human of us to want reasons and answers for our tragedies, and nice when there is one we can hang our hat upon, but I agree that freak things happen. That there does not have to be a reason--the fact that you see this is beautiful, because I think it means you embrace life over pain (gosh that sounds screwy). I am so deeply sorry, but I also think you will have exactly what you want--that beautiful child, and more beautiful books.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your constant honesty and vulnerability.Jordan E. Rosenfeldhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580511962852819683noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-18412494132194971182008-03-22T07:56:00.000-07:002008-03-22T07:56:00.000-07:00In the past gardening and housework have certainly...In the past gardening and housework have certainly helped me get through some hard times...aswell as painting walls, getting creative and making new goals...so you´re on your way. Time is the only healer sometimes.Claudiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13354452103151051055noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-33282043528658363722008-03-21T14:16:00.000-07:002008-03-21T14:16:00.000-07:00Oh, I wish I had a garden with so many flowers lik...Oh, I wish I had a garden with so many flowers like that!<BR/><BR/>I wish I could respond to your thoughts on miscarriages better, but I don't have any experience in that area so I can't relate.Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08756447854917857756noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-860187091120175682008-03-21T14:15:00.000-07:002008-03-21T14:15:00.000-07:00i am sorry about your loss.. went through that my...i am sorry about your loss.. went through that myself not too long ago, well actually five years ago, but in a way seems just a week ago... do grieve, there isn't a thing wrong with it...Natalya Khorover Aikenshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08490493432155941262noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-33848402625260550782008-03-21T09:24:00.000-07:002008-03-21T09:24:00.000-07:00Thank you for saying what you did in this post. I ...Thank you for saying what you did in this post. I wish more people thought this way. When I told my mom we might lose this baby b/c the tests aren't looking good, she said not to get too attached or sad since I'm "not that far along." I didn't know what to say to that, but I wasn't happy with her. I know she means well, but still...<BR/><BR/>Here's to a bright summer filled with flowers, rest, and creativity!Amber Loughhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12374291005610549082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-69287726922172186112008-03-21T06:10:00.000-07:002008-03-21T06:10:00.000-07:00Sweet Laini. You are wonderful, and brave, and I s...Sweet Laini. You are wonderful, and brave, and I see how you are working through your sorrow with hopes and resolutions and words.<BR/><BR/>When my father fell ill last fall I tried to stich words together and failed miserably, and although everyone kept asking me how I was, all I could say was a lame "fine". <BR/><BR/>I understand your need to underline that this did not happen for a reason or as a result of something, or that it was meant to be. To me, a pattern that measures out grief and happiness in such sceramingly unfair portions just can't be called anything other than random. <BR/><BR/>And of course it wasn't your fault! Things just happen, and this did, and you are working your way through a jungle here, hacking at foliage, swatting at flies and clearing out brambles, and on the other side there is quite likely a beach. Or so someone I like very , very much told me. <BR/><BR/>Lillefnugg (tone)tone almhjellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05213144552658031984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-21997604.post-64602544077889663942008-03-20T20:53:00.000-07:002008-03-20T20:53:00.000-07:00So glad to hear the nesting is going well. And gar...So glad to hear the nesting is going well. And gardening too! I seem to have misplaced housewife ghostie who used to live here - have you kidnapped her? <BR/><BR/>On to more serious things - I'm always stunned by the things that fall out of people's mouths, even when they mean well. I also believe bad things happen randomly and without reason. Something good can come out of it, but it's not the reason it happened. <BR/><BR/>My heart aches for you and Jim. I'm so sorry this has happened.Deirdrehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01111665177473414894noreply@blogger.com